The book courage is about overcoming those little fears and insecurities that everyone has in order to become a better, happier and more successful person (who doesnt want that). Slowly and surely, debbie takes you through her process of doing that in the book, starting with how you’ll transform, the root of your fears and finally how to overcome them and make the most of your current situation. Lets dig in.
The book starts out with trying to find the culprit of your fears – perhaps it was someone in junior high teasing you about having glasses or a big head or something. For debbie, it was teasing by her older siblings and the other kids on her street. Quickly, she found a way to make herself feel better after having been teased: Coke (soda, not powder) and brownies. After she ate a bit of brownie and had a coke, she was able to feel much better about herself. She goes deeper into it and how she was teased while at school, and because of that, her whole attitude and outlook on life began to shift. She stopped caring, and being playful, and became much more cynical. She became someone who she wasn’t to hide the pain and fear. (I dont know about any of you readers, but I didnt find junior high/middle school to be that terrible). Not long after becoming someone else, she started getting into drugs. The fears and covering up with substance abuse continued on and off for a few years, until she realized she had a problem and checked into rehab. All of these things led her to discover what she calls “The voice of fear” - which mostly boils down to that little voice inside you that’s uncertain, doubtful and harmful to meaningful change in life.
After that, she slowed down on the pills but mainly stayed the same until an incident in paris in which she needed to get home but wasnt sure how – she was depending on the person who brought her to paris and wasnt sure what to do. Eventually she summons up the courage and leaves the hotel, waiting 24 hours for a flight out of town. She realizes she has more confidence than she thought and starts to try and become a more confident person. One of the first things that she suggests doing is taking help that is offered to you by friends, family and even strangers. Life’s much easier when you get out of your own way and accept help from others (I can personally vouch for that).
Finally, she talks about how you need to surrender to your fears to finally get over them and realize how they’ve been holding you back. Once you let all the mistakes from your past go and stop dwelling on them, you can move forward. (This is very helpful when paying off debt, because if you make 1 stupid purchase, you have to just forget about it or you’ll beat yourself up and tell yourself you cant do it, which will become a self-fufilling prophecy). Finally, she talks about the importance of having a vision – why are you here, and what do you want to do? Once you figure out those things, you can figure out how you’re going to do it.
Readers: Do you typically read self help books? Do you find them helpful? These are a bit outside my norm, but they are good for a change every once in a while and typically have some good ideas in them